There are actually two variations of this gift. Some people with the encouraging side of this gift are continually writing notes, or saying brief “words” to people, These are not flighty or light sentiments, The messages are pointed, unusually perceptive, and very encouraging for the faith of those who receive them, These are not produced as a chore or task but as a joyful ministry, Those who exercise this gift are not looking for an exchange of messages their greatest affirmation is when you make progress or “pay it forward”, doing what was done for you to someone else, Biblical example: Barnabas had this gift,
The exhorting side to this gift definitely has an edge to it. One way to put it is encouragement on steroids. Someone with this gift sits down with you or takes you aside and *calls you out” in your wail of faith. They are direct and can help you see things or face things about yourself that you have been avoiding or denying They can’t override your will, but they present a pretty compelling reason to get things straightened out. I like to picture the experience as being like a warm hug followed by a punch to the chin, and the impact of the punch may only sink in later. Biblical example: Agabus demonstrated this gift (Acts 11.28, 21,10).